Let’s be real: figuring out how autistic kids show anger can be tough. After years as a therapist, we’ve seen it all, from quiet sulking to full-on meltdowns that leave parents exhausted.
But here’s the deal: Anger is a message. It’s their way of saying, "I’m overwhelmed, help me out!"
So, how do autistic kids usually show anger?
Actions speak louder than words
Sometimes, words fail, and their bodies do the talking. Here’s how they might show anger physically:
Hurting themselves: Things like hitting, biting, or scratching themselves. It’s heartbreaking, but it’s often their way of coping with sensory overload.
Lashing out: Hitting, kicking, or pushing others. This isn’t about being mean, it’s about needing a release.
Breaking stuff: Throwing toys or slamming doors isn’t about being "bad." It’s an outlet when they can’t use words.
Running away: Sometimes, escaping is their only way to deal with overwhelming situations.
When Words do Come out
If the child is verbal, their anger might show up like this:
Shouting or screaming: It’s their way of yelling, "Something’s wrong, listen to me!"
Repeating words: They might say the same thing over and over to process what they’re feeling.
Using harsh words: It might sound mean, but it’s rarely personal. It’s how they’re coping in the moment.
Why do they act this way?
Let’s clear this up: Anger in autistic kids isn’t about being "bad." It’s about unmet needs, sensory overload, or feeling frustrated. Imagine being in a noisy, bright room without knowing how to ask for help, wouldn’t you feel like lashing out too?
Here’s what might trigger them:
Sensory overload: Loud sounds, bright lights, or itchy clothes can set them off.
Trouble communicating: When they can’t say what they need, frustration builds up.
Changes in routine: Sudden changes can feel overwhelming.
Big emotions: Anger can cover up feelings like sadness or fear.
What can you do?
Nobody wants to feel stuck. Here’s what works:
Know their triggers: Keep track of when outbursts happen. You’ll notice patterns.
Use visuals: Charts or pictures can help them explain their feelings.
Teach calming tools: Breathing exercises, stress balls, or quiet spaces can help.
Stay calm: Your calmness can help them feel safe.
Get expert help: Therapists and specialists can create a plan that works for your child.
The Takeaway
Anger isn’t the enemy, it’s a signal. It’s a way for your child to say, "I need help." As parents, caregivers, and therapists, it’s our job to listen and understand. With patience and the right tools, you’ll get through this together.
So, the next time your child has an outburst, take a deep breath and remember, they’re reaching out. You’ve got this.
Need help? Therapy centres like Total Communication are here to support you.
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